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It really is time to stop worrying about what body shape you are. Wear what you LOVE, not what some archaic rule says you should. 

My name is Nikki Parkinson and welcome to my non-official, totally not endorsed TED talk about body shape classifications. I’ve been banging on about this notion that we should stop trying to compare ourselves to something best left in your fruit bowl for A LONG time now.

For reference, and an unashamed plug, here’s a passage from my book, Unlock Your Style (published more than six years ago and written more than seven years ago):

I don’t believe in body shapes. Gasp. It’s true. Well, true to a certain extent. What I don’t believe in is rules about how we should dress. We spend too much time thinking about these so-called style rules instead of making our own style rules. Guidelines are great, but it’s been my experience working one on one with women that too many guidelines fail to help – worse, they bamboozle women so much that they totally give up finding clothes that work for their personality and lifestyle.

Initially I thought categorising bodies by shape – classifying and ordering them – made sense. What I found when I looked into it, though, was more chaos, not order. Some experts would have us believe that we’re one of five body shapes; others tell us there are seven possible shapes; and yet another thinks there are 12. There are 3.5 billion individual women in the world. Maths may not be my strong point but something doesn’t add up. Each of us is different from the next woman. To think we can all be categorised as certain types of fruit or other kinds of shapes is just crazy – and it distracts us from the task at hand, which is to choose, buy and wear clothes that make us feel good.

Have a watch/listen to my latest Tuesday Lunchtime Live on IGTV as I delve further into this topic, which I have even more thoughts on seven years down the track, in my 50s, and giving even fewer f*%ks. HAH.

Key body shape points to remember

1. Style is not dependent on an outfit being considered “flattering”. I’m trying to stop using that F word because I realise it’s problematic and very much contributes to the constant war we have with our bodies, trying to turn them into something they’re not and hating bits of them along the way. By saying an outfit is flattering – on ourselves or another women – the hidden meaning is that it makes the person look thinner … because we’ve been told for so long that that’s something we should strive for. I challenge you to not stop complimenting another woman on her outfit (because that’s a nice thing to do) but come up with another way to do it instead. How about: “I love the way your {dress, skirt} makes your eyes shine a little brighter.” The emphasis is on the effect of the chosen outfit (confidence), not an idea that something has to make you look smaller.

2. Body shape classification can make us feel “less than”. The holy grail of body shapes – hourglass – is seemingly what we should all be aspiring to. Old school thought was that if you were something other than an hourglass that you should try and create an illusion that you are. What bollocks. If you don’t want to show your waist, don’t. You know me and my love of loose and lovely dresses.

3. Style is a window to who we are as a person. What we wear gives another person an insight into your personality – through your style personality or personalities – I have multiple! I advocate using clothes to show that. Nothing in this idea is about choosing clothes based on what body shape you are. It’s about what colours and prints you like to wear and the textures of fabrics you combine. It’s the style personality of the clothes, eg boho, classic, retro. Yes, the shape of your clothes helps to create an outfit with style but it’s not dependent on the body shape underneath. 

4. Learn to recognise within yourself what colours, prints and cuts in clothes you FEEL good in. This is all about working on that intuitive muscle and letting go of any “rules” that may be stopping you from dressing for your best life. Experiment with pieces in your wardrobe or in the change room at shops. Try on pieces and combinations you normally wouldn’t. There’s no right or wrong. Look for a spark in your eye when you see yourself reflected back in the mirror. That spark will tell you if it’s right for you.

5. Take your measurements to help understand your individual body proportions. This is the only “science” or maths I encourage you to explore because it can be helpful for understanding why some types of clothing pieces don’t work for your individual body. This isn’t about how big or small you are and there is no right or wrong. It’s about understanding how different parts of your body sit in proportion to others. Knowing if you have a longer torso and shorter legs will help you understand why tops and tees might feel like crop tops. Conversely, having longer legs compared with a shorter torso might help you understand why things like wrap dresses and tops never seem to sit smoothly. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t wear those types of clothes. Again, wear what you feel good in. I talk more about this in my book but below is a list of measurements that I suggest in the book. Remember, you don’t have to share your measurements with anyone. I do keep mine saved in my phone as it can help with online shopping for clothes.

Key body measurements to take to help you work out your individual proportions (Unlock Your Style, Nikki Parkinson)

6. Confidence should be the only body shape you subscribe to. Think about it … if we devoted the same amount of time and energy to loving and accepting our bodies – or trying to love and accept them – than trying to work out what we think we should wear because we are a certain body shape, imagine how much amazing we could feel. Imagine.

7. If you love it. Wear it. THE END.

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Why you need to stop worrying about what body shape you are

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